The internet seems to reward people who post quickly and without hesitation. But as anyone who has deleted a cringe-inducing hot take on Twitter will tell you, faster isn’t always better.
Taking a moment to pause and evaluate your choices is an effective habit to cultivate, and not only on the internet. We often fall into the habit of reacting without thought, particularly during periods of high stress. We may purchase expensive and ineffective solutions for minor problems, post unrelated or obnoxious comments on articles we’ve only skimmed, or make snap judgments without examining the surrounding circumstances.
Simply taking a quick step back can allow for better decision-making. When a post makes you angry, stop before you take to your keyboard in high dudgeon. Ask yourself, “Will my comment really add to this discussion? Do I have a more persuasive view to air here? Or would it be better to walk away without posting?” That split second can make the difference between a good day and a day filled with internet drama. If you’re truly angry with the post’s author, unsubscribe or mute them. You don’t need to continue reading a blogger or Facebook friend who consistently provokes you. (I’m not saying to remove all opposing viewpoints from your life, but there’s a difference between exposing yourself to differing views and stewing in rage 24/7.)
You can similarly combat buyer’s remorse by inserting a waiting period before purchasing something. I’ve seen periods up to 30 days suggested, but I’ve found that cooling off for 24 hours is usually enough for me. I often don’t remember what I so desperately wanted the previous day, and if it’s still fresh in my mind, it’s usually something I genuinely wish to buy (or even need).
Learning to interrupt automatic behavior can allow us to make more thoughtful decisions. It’s challenging to take self-directed action when bouncing from one response to the next in a state of pure reactivity. If you’re looking to lead a more intentional life, pause and take deliberate action rather than merely reacting.
Challenge:
This week, I encourage you to pause when you’re tempted to make decisions on autopilot. Simply take a breath and ask yourself, “Do I need to react to this immediately?” Take a moment before you click buy and pause before responding to online comments. You may find your first instinct is acceptable, and you want to follow through on the impulse. That’s fine! The critical part is the pause itself, not necessarily changing your action. (Or not only changing your action.) Cultivate the habit of taking a breath and questioning yourself. Make thoughtful comments online and deliberate purchases as a way to encourage thoughtful and deliberate practices in other areas of your life.